It's hard when you work really hard on something and it just doesn't look right. Or feel right. Or you flat out, don't like it. For some people, the hours put into a project alone are enough for them to live with it. Even when I put hours into something, and even when I blog about it and show the world how great something could be--I later eat my words and swallow my pride and start over. I do like to give myself 24 hours living with a paint color, or piece of art, or stencil, or gallery, or curtains, or area rug before I nix it because it may not be the new decor that you don't like--it could just be the shock of change that takes time to get used to.
One easy example of this is that zebra rug in our family room. I recently rolled it up and stored it in the basement. Then I put it in the online classifieds. I just don't like it anymore. It was great in our apartment. There was a time I loved it, but it doesn't fit into our home's vibe anymore and just because we spent money on it at one time (technically, we just spent a gift card on it), it is okay to not like it anymore and sell it and move on. Lesson learned: Don't keep something just because you once spent money on it.
Another example that I am currently working through is our staircase gallery wall. Yesterday, I announced that I was stenciling our upstairs hallway. I got about 1/3 of it done and stopped to step back and look at it. Something just didn't feel right. I wasn't sure if it was the stencil, the stencil in the hall, or the adjacent gallery wall. I thought about it all day yesterday and last night and this morning and then I took down the whole gallery. It was definitely too busy. So now, we are enjoying a nice blank wall covered in screws and nails until we can replace the heinous light fixture and come up with something more simple for this wall. As for the stencil in the hallway, the verdict is still out. Lesson learned: Don't put everything you have in one space just because you have it and just because the space is blank.
My last example is our dear, Moooi Random Light knockoff. I am just gonna say it--It has started sagging where we made the hole to change the bulb. Gah! We tried to fix it with a sheet of acetate cut in a circle and placed at the top of the light for extra support and it worked for awhile, but it has started sagging again. However, this is one thing that we aren't just going to throw out and chalk up to a good try. We already put several hours into our light and we truly love it--we just don't love how it sags on one side. So, we are humbling ourselves and trying again. We are pretty sure the watered down Mod Podge and corn starch are just not strong enough to sustain our massive sphere. We're on the lookout for a stronger solution. We've heard good things about Stiffy Fabric Stiffener, or maybe some sort of acrylic epoxy, or even wallpaper glue--we'll share the details when we figure it out. For now, our slightly sagging light (thank goodness it is only sagging in the back) is still hanging in the dining room until we muster enough energy to try again. Lesson learned: Just because you put hours into a project, it doesn't mean you are going to get it right the first time. It also doesn't mean you should give up on it. Here's hoping second time is a charm in this case.
I LOVED the art by your staircase..but totally understand what you mean with the stenciling...can't wait to see how it turns out!
Oh I TOTALLY know what you mean by humility! Theres so much about our house that I want to change and that I'm not happy with that we haven't been able to touch so when I project doesn't work like I planned it's almost devastating. I can't wait to see what you guys come up with!
I will help you too!
I agree about the humility required in DIY and home decor. When I first started doing this stuff I was so scared it wouldn't work out and I would be wasting money that I just wouldn't even do it. Recently, I have decided that that is foolish and mistakes and just-didn't works are part of the process. The adventure of doing it is what brings us back to the projects anyway. Thanks for the post. It is nice to see the, not-quite-rights of another.
SUCH a great post!! I definitely fall into the category of "putting it up just because we have it." I need to change that! p.s. Don't forget all of the amazing things you have done since you moved in!! We've lived in our house for a year...and we have not done nearly as much as you have!
This made me feel a lot better about trying to decorate my bedroom and office. I liked all your little lessons, it took some stress and pressure off!
Can't wait to see your stencil job! And if there's two things I've learned about home design is - give a drastic change a little time, and - sometimes the best ideas simply have to pop in your head. I'm sure you'll find a great balance!
Kudos on the self-home-assessment. I have some really ugly tulips in our "guest bedroom." I'm going to put them in the yard sale pile.
What a great post. It is true like you said, that just because you have the stuff, it doesn't all need to be together JUST to fill a blank wall. Sometimes I get so frantic to decorate our place that I put up the wrong thing. And it doesn't help when you have weird wall space like WE do and nothing really "feels" right. I think a uniform design idea for that space up the stairs will be just right. The stencil is so beautiful from this angle though! I love it!!
Hahaha, Mom! What's giving you a headache?? I'll help you.
That is a hard, but important lesson to learn, Amber. It's not always easy, but your home should be comfortable and reflect you and NOT irritate you in any way. That's why I ultimately had to make some decisions to get rid of things or try again. Hopefully this gave you the boost you need to do what it takes to be happy with all parts of your home.
i totally needed to read this! i am struggling with not being satisfied with parts of our home, but am affraid to change it because I spent money on it. You are right, I just need to bite the bullet and make the changes. i think i will feel much more at ease if i am satisfied with the decor rather than just settling for something that is just okay.
I love the rug, the wall gallery and definitely the light fixture....but you're correct - if it doesn't feel right, do something or be like me and adjust to your constant headache. mom