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We're walking away.

October 19, 2010


The five stages of grief are:  
1-Denial-"this can't be happening to me", Not accepting or even acknowledging the loss.
2-Anger-"why me?", feelings of wanting to fight back or get even
3-Bargaining-Attempting to make deals  Begging, wishing, praying
4-Depression-overwhelming feelings of hopelessness, frustration, bitterness, self pity, mourning loss  
5-Acceptance- Finding the good that can come out of the pain of loss, finding comfort and healing. 
    ...and I have gone through the whole process in less than a week and a half.  Our beloved house that we went under contract with back in August is not going to be ours after all.  It is frustrating, but I don't want to back-track to stage 4 (see above list), so I am looking it as a new opportunity to once again find "our home."  

    We were supposed to close last week.  We already bought our appliances, sold our couch, and packed up half of our apartment.  Last week, we got an email from our mortgage lender about some things that needed to be done before our loan could be processed.  First off, why isn't our loan process when we had all the paperwork in 3 weeks ago!?  Secondly, what is with number 2 on that list:  
Provide evidence termites (per termite inspection report) have been treated  
    Did I start crying?  Yes.  We never saw a termite inspection report and we definitely never heard that there WERE any termites.  Oh, this changes everything.  Just treating the termites would be over $1200, and that doesn't include taking care of the damage done to the home AND the damage done to the resale value.  Furthermore, I wasn't sure I even wanted to live in a home with a history of termites.   We have tried to contact the seller and have them pay for the repairs like our mortgage lender suggested (there is no way in H we were paying for that), but they have not responded.  They did, however, say that in a day or two, we'll be charged $400 for an extension on the contract.  Pah!  Chris and I think that they are just stalling, so they can take our $400 AND our earnest money, tell us they are not fixing the termites and run.  Good thing we are soooo over number 3 in the grieving process.  
    We are walking away.  There is a home out there waiting to be ours and we gotta find it.  Also, I can't live without a couch and in moving chaos for much longer--so we gotta find it QUICK! Standby.
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  1. I am so sorry girl! That sounds so frustrating. At least you are in the process of owning your own home. Paying for rent is such a waste of money. Best of luck finding another home. Its a buyers market so you will have plenty to pick from.

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